Crazy World

Somehow after quitting one job, I’ve become far more busy than I could have anticipated. And while the change is a welcome one, humans still require rest. Having a 17 month old kind of puts a wrench in that, but we manage.

One thing I have been doing is spending some time on Pinterest. Not that I’m being crafty, but I’ve found some very interesting writing prompts and advice on there. While some are extremely repetitive (one more seven deadly sins character prompt and I’ll hurl), others can really make your mind begin to churn. The ones I’ve personally enjoyed are the dialogue prompts. Two characters exchanging words amidst some unique situation YOU create.

I’ll give you my favorite example:

“Just, take a deep breath or something!”

“Take a deep breath?! It feels like my INSIDES are being RIPPED OUT!”

See, for me my brain instantly jumps to a woman in labor with someone extremely ill equipped to handle the situation in proximity. Possibly even trapped in an enclosure (elevator, cave, crash site). Not that those wouldn’t work for a perfectly good story, but it’s not exactly interesting. It’s birth. It happens everyday.

Instead, what other situation could this conversation be happening in? Make it hilarious! Is someone being turned into a bizarre creature? What about something burrowing into them? Are they dying and being reborn? Now THAT’S a birth that could be interesting! What if butterflies caused such a sensation? Or the sound of a helicopter? What if someone saying your name had you feeling such a torture?

When it comes to writing prompts the possibilities are innumerable. Always keep your eyes and ears open for random inspiration. When in doubt, people watch and make up conversations. Invite a friend along and you’ll be rolling before you know it. What can I say? It’s a crazy world!


My Year as a Fashion Consultant

Last year around this time I became an Independant Fashion Consultant for Lularoe clothing. Today I’d like to talk about what I’ve learned along the journey and why I quit. It was a very challenging decision to make and there were a lot of varying emotions that accompanied it. I will begin by stating that I do NOT regret on moment of it.

I had just recently had my first baby (a daughter) and wanted a little more out of my life. I wanted to have the option of working from home and having more business. I was/am a cosmetologist and my business was quite slow. I also didn’t have much drive for it at the time. So, becoming a consultant seemed like a good fit. I spent about three months thinking, praying, and searching to make sure this investment (because the nearly 5k startup cost IS an investment) was the right move for us.

My husband and I did LOADS of research on the company, how it works, and other aspects prior to jumping in. And soon enough I was in the queue to become a retailer. Over the next few weeks I soaked in as much as I possibly could and ordered all of the necessary items that would help my business run as smoothly as possible. When that call came in I was like a kid on Christmas. I couldn’t wait to start my journey.

Once my inventory was in I jumped online and did my first live sale via Facebook. Each week following I had a similar routine: live sale at 8pm, album sale online for the next three days, pack and ship! I LOVED every second of it. The group of consultants I worked with were amazing and had great ideas, great energy, but were realists. Sure as a fledgling company there were occasional growing pains, but I never regretted one moment of doing the work. Especially since my baby could bounce happily in her exersaucer next to me the whole time. 🙂

But….life decided to throw a curve ball at us and put us into some serious debt. When we sat down and looked at all of our options only one move worked in our favor…I had to quit the business. Truthfully, I was a little afraid. What would I do now? This was my business. I photographed and edited outfits, I went live all the time, I was consistent, and it became a fun rhythm. But you gotta do what you gotta do in life sometimes, and this was something I couldn’t continue for the time being.

So we closed up shop. Sent things back. And reclaimed a room in our house.

And while looking back there were a few things I learned along the way:

1.) Fashion “rules” don’t matter – You see, growing up we all hear how “plus sized women can’t wear horizontal stripes” or “you can’t wear white after Labor Day”. I cannot tell you how many women felt empowered by breaking those supposed rules and came into their own. That is what put a smile on my face.

2.) Investments matter – There are a lot of people who blame the company for their financial distress. However, as an adult you make your own financial decisions every day. It is YOUR money that YOU handle. And if you followed the company’s advice and read the policies and procedures you would see that you only make what you are willing to put in. Which leads me to my next point…

3.) It takes WORK – Becoming a consultant, whether it’s fashion, makeup, or health products, you don’t make money by sitting idly by and waiting for someone to call you. You have to get off your butt and DO THE WORK. No matter where you are employed, you are expected to perform certain tasks in order to earn a living. Working from home was the same way for me.

4.) Who I am – Be yourself in everything you do. It is what makes you likeable and unique. I just had fun. I would watch other people do their live sales and what made them popular. But at the end of the day I could only be me, and that is what brought me my customers.

5.) God sometimes has other plans – I felt like this was the right move for us. And it was for a year. Since resigning, however, I have had a pick up in my hair business like I haven’t seen in a long time. And I’m enjoying it! My new customers are wonderful and we always have fun! I’m interested in products and services that I hadn’t been before.

So, at the end of the day I learned a lot. I had a blast jamming to music while I sold pieces online. My baby enjoyed seeing all the fun patterns and “shopping”. Ultimately, I will always remember that year with fondness. It let me be the mom I wanted to be and feel like a whole person. I loved most being able to help ladies find pieces that brightened not simply their closets, but their days. And that is a job worth having.

Off Topic Truth

Today I wanted to throw out a random post that I have been itching to write for a few weeks now. If you are a mama or mama to be I’m sure you’ve considered what you’ll pack for your trip to the hospital. If not, well…. now is a good time to start. Just for kicks and giggles, I thought I’d write a section on what I packed last delivery day, whether or not it got used, and what I’m changing for this go round. 🙂

With my first I was fairly proud of my packing job. I had thought through EVERYTHING from birthing gowns to socks, from makeup to depends (hey, I’m a realist). And what I took mostly got used (if not by me, by someone in my posse).

So here’s the list of goodies I packed and actually USED during birth (or around that time).

1.) Pajamas – A button down top and some loose fitting bottoms. I even treated myself to a brand new set from Ross. I knew I would be nursing so I tried to be practical. Also, you never know how your birth will go when things start moving so I also purchased them based on how they’d fit in case I had a C-section.

*Note- you don’t walk of the hospital with a fit figure. It took 9 months to grow this baby in your belly, so your body will still be round when you leave. #Truth

2.) Toiletries- These aren’t really necessary (the hospital has soap and shampoo). But when I’m out of my comfort zone having a familiar soap and shampoo (which I’m super picky about, being a hairdresser) really helps ease those nerves. Plus razor!

3.) Nursing pillow- VERY helpful. Babies are super tiny and if you’re not familiar with nursing you may bend all weird while trying to get that perfect latch.

4.) I.D. And Insurance- Probably should be number one on the list but… SUPER IMPORTANT. At our hospital anyone who was staying the night with you had to be registered at the front desk. To do so they needed your I.D. Plus, you need them to drive among other things.

5.) Going Home Outfit- A pair of maternity pants and a cute/comfy top are nice for the ride home.

6.) Electronics and chargers- You will need a cellphone to keep everyone up to date. During my delivery I was there for 24 hours before they began the pitocin. It was nice to keep people updated. You may also want a camera??

Okay, now for the non-necessities that may or may not get used. Still a good idea in particular situations.

 7.) Nursing bra- Now technically this is a good idea no matter what. But let’s be real guys, you probably won’t wear a bra while in labor. Sure it’s nice to have that support, but when they have to do the epidural, that thing’s gotta go! Plus, the maternity hospital gowns have slits for nursing in the front. (More on that last detail in a little bit.)

8.) Dry shampoo- I wasn’t sure if I’d use this or not, but I felt better having it around.  Just something for the lazy shower when you don’t have the energy (which you may not) to wash your hair.

9.) Makeup- So…yeah… PLEASE don’t fret over your makeup. People will probably take photos when you’re not really anticipating. Leave the vanity at home. I packed a tinted moisturizer and some lip gloss for a simple, clean look that was easy to throw on in two seconds.

10.) Robe- It’s nice to have just in case you decide to (or have to) take a walk around the ward.

11.) Snacks- I put these in this category because you may or may not be able to eat during labor. If pitocin is involved, forget eating. C-section, nope! Induction prior to pitocin….maybe.

12.) Tucks and Dermoplast- The hospital may provide these but you can never have enough. See note in next section.

13.) Baby necessities- A couple of onesies (we did a newborn and a 0-3 mos just in case). I highly recommend taking a onesie with the fold over sleeves. You know, the ones where the little sleeves fold over their hands. My newborn managed to remove the little mittens we tried to put on her. Fair warning. Also, throw in diapers, wipes, and the like. (Or consider packing them their own diaper bag.)

Now on to the list of what not to pack.

1.) Birthing gown – Okay… keep this in mind: you do not go home the same day you deliver. If you give birth in a birthing gown you will, more than likely, get some gross fluid on it. Which means it will sit with that lovely goo on it in your bag for multiple days….. Now, some people use this in place of a robe. Others want to rant about the hospital gowns not being mom friendly. As I mentioned above, they tend to have folded slits in the front of them for nursing and make getting that epidural easier with the tie back. See my point? Less laundry = Less hassel

2.) Socks- Primarily I mean this during labor. Some people talk about being cold during dialation. But when you’re in pain and possibly feeling sick during labor, you REALLY won’t care about your feet. Besides, it’s a hospital. They have blankets (typically in a warmer) and non-slip socks.

3.) Underwear- TAKE ALL THE MESH UNDIES!!!! And BEG or BRIBE your nurses for the ice packs. You’ll feel like a baseball player wearing a cup, but you won’t give a rip!

*Note: A layer of mesh underwear, ice packs, giant pads, Tucks (witch hazel pads), and Dermoplast spray….. your bottom will thank you. Especially if you have stitches. Buy the Tucks!!

4.) Flip flops- If they are just for wearing around the hospital, sure! But people tend to freak out over germs and gunk in the showers. Can we remember that this is a HOSPITAL?? It may feel like a hotel, but I can assure you they have cleaner showers and beds.

And last, but not least, the things I’m packing different this time.

1.) Baby bottles- Okay…. nursing is my number one. I loved nursing my daughter. However, in all honesty you have to consider that it could take a couple of days for your milk to come in. They will want to see that you can feed your infant and that they are gaining weight. And don’t be an idealist when it comes to feeding your baby. Your baby will be just fine with a bottle (fed is best) until your milk comes in. It never confused my newborn one bit. What did frustrate her was trying to “tube feed” her. (They take a syringe, fill it with formula, attach a tube, and feed it into your baby’s mouth. Wanna talk about confusion?? Wanna talk about gas??) Take a bottle, you won’t be sorry.

2.) Baby blankets- Receiving blankets to wrap your tiny one in for the ride home. Apparently hospitals frown on stealing the baby blankets. Although, we brought home about four and eight newborn hats. (Don’t ask, my husband was needy about the tiny hats.)

So if you happen to be planning on reproducing and need a few tips, I hope this list helps! There are a million articles on this same topic, and advice from nurses and the like. Find what works for you, but remember to be open minded. You may have a birth plan, but in the end remember to do what is safest and best for you and baby.

Side story: A friend of mine wanted to have her son vaginally. All was going well until the cord wrapped around his neck. She then needed an emergency C-section. Moral of the story, you can have all the doulas, midwives, and empowering thoughts there are, but things can happen that cause circumstances to change. At the end of the day you still are a mama with a new bundle, however they decided to come into the world.

Second Story: I wanted to go in all natural. My mom did it, so I wanted to try. But I had gestational diabetes and had to be induced. My daughter was perfectly happy in my belly and didn’t want to come. The only way I dialated was when they gave me some pain meds. I wasn’t stressed or tense, but it’s what helped. So, I got the epidural and dialated rapidly soon after. Keep an open mind!

NaNoWriMo TIME!!!

I figured while I’ve got two seconds to spare (my child is waking up as we speak) I’d hit on something fun!

NaNoWriMo has arrived!! Yes – I know I’m a few days late, BTW why are you reading this? Shouldn’t you be writing?! That’s today’s point. When you do this challenge remember to JUST KEEP WRITING!!! Don’t stop to edit, just get it typed out or down on paper. And BACK EVERYTHING UP! Save everything on something external. A harddrive, flash drive, etc.

Press on, because you’ll be surprised what your mind spins out of those wee hours typing. Those crazy inspirations will come together. Don’t worry about the how’s and the why’s. There’s time in December to worry over editing and cutting and pasting. For now, get those 50k out and give yourself something to work with later.

Have a great time writing! I always had fun. Maybe next year I’ll hit it up again. I really liked the story I did my second year. Hmm… maybe today I’ll read it. For now, GET BACK TO WRITING!!!

Psst….you there…

It’s been a minute since my last post. Okay, okay… it’s been a very long time. My life has majorly changed in many ways over the past 18 months. From having my first baby (who is sunshine), to getting a new job in sales, to raising a baby (we kept her alive and thriving for an entire year, WOO!), to getting ready for our second baby. Guys, this year has been amazing! I feel completely awful I have left this blog in the dark for so long though.

Let’s be real… parenting is hard and wonderful. It does, however, take up a lot of my time and attention. Then with two jobs (neither of which are consistent) you can see how I’ve lost a little track of things.

Balance has become a new challenge. I’m seeking some form of normality. Some days are better than others. My brain works better some days than others. ^_^

So, for now I’m looking to find some good reads to blog about again. I’d really like to breathe new life into this blog again. It’s fun! I enjoy giving you guys my thoughts on books, and it’s flattering when authors request a review from me.

These are my goals moving forward: read more, review more, and give whatever guidance I can.

I hope your year has been amazing and challenging as well!

LuLaRoe Conversation

Today’s post is off topic. Normally I would post about my reading or writing ventures, but today I felt the need to post on something that I felt has been unfairly judged. A hot topic that many women have been talking about. A company a little different than others you may have heard of. 

That’s right, LuLaRoe.

LuLaRoe on the surface appears like many other home sales companies do. Ran by women, pyramid scheme, pushy sales consultants, overpriced, and something you can buy anywhere else. At first glance I’d agree with you. I was wary about dealing with them. And in the next few paragraphs I’d like to address each of these points along with a few others.

Ran by women

The company was founded by a woman and is primarily populated by female consultants… for now. Many husbands have taken to not only supporting their wives and significant others in the business, but have also walked away from their jobs to also work along side them in the LLR business.

Pyramid scheme

So as a consultant you have an upline and possibly a downline. Sounds like a pyramid scheme, right? Wrong. Here’s why: in your typical pyramid scheme the upline take a portion of the downline’s sales. In LuLaRoe the downline’s sales are theirs alone. The upline then gets paid from the company the percentage they would have taken from the downline’s sales.

Pushy sales consultants

Okay, here’s the sticking point for me. No matter what sales company you are looking at (Macy’s, car dealerships, Mary Kay, Charlotte Russe, etc.) you will find pushy sales consultants. Period. There is no exception. However, in the same industry you will also find sales consultants you love and wanna take with you everywhere. Holding a single company aloft for having such a consultant is irresponsible and frivolous.


Go to a mall. Everyone up charges their merchandise. Everyone. It’s called profit. It’s also called supply and demand. But let me ask you this, when was the last time you found a quality piece of clothing that fit well, had a unique print/feel/design, and was practical? It’s okay, I’ll wait…

I thought so. Their clothing is made specifically by their company. They are the only place you will ever find these fabrics, prints, and modest styles. They are not just cheaply made and trashy. They are very stylish and comfortable. Something you will be hard pressed to find in the same price bracket. 

Sure you can find cheap comfy clothes at Wal-Mart but they will be either boring yoga pants or sweats. You’ll hardly find easy throw on clothes that look and feel this good. Which hits my next point really well…

Can’t find it anywhere else

These clothes are printed only once. Each pattern has 2,500 pieces per pattern and that’s it. You will never again see the same pattern as that same dress again. Anywhere. 

I also wanted to say that some have complained about the fact that they may be a small in one style and a large in another. Again, holding a single company responsible for this and not faulting others is highly unfair. I can go to Target and pick up one brand of jeans in a size 6 and have them fit, I can pick up another brand from the same  store in a size 6 and it not fit. But I still shop there. I have enough common sense to know that different cuts fit differently, as do different fabrics. Who cares what your number is? If you look and feel fabulous then rock you!

Now, have I heard some legitimate complaints? Sure. But understand this company is still very new. As of right now they are only 4 years old. They have some growing to do and with that comes some challenges. But that’s to be expected with a new business. 

The other main complaint I’ve heard is about how they sell their items. They sell through many outlets such as albums, live sales on Facebook, in home sales, and what’s called Pop-ups where they set up in your home like a Tupperware party. My advice on this? If you don’t like it then shop elsewhere. 

I understand not every store is right for every person. Not every style is right for everyone either. And that’s okay! I’m not going to force LuLaRoe on someone who doesn’t want anything to do with it. That’s perfectly fine. But if you are going to call out one company for doing something that many others do then you must call out the others as well.

Do your research. Ask questions of those in the business and those who have had various experiences with them. Hear both sides. 

*As of right now I do not sell nor assist in the sale of LuLaRoe. I am merely a consumer. My consultant is awesome and very professional. She does exchanges on any merchandise that is either unsatisfactory or faulty.*

A Year In The Life

Gilmore Girls 

Finally we have what we’ve all been waiting for. The final four words have been spoken. The Gilmore women have returned in a prodigious way. If you would be so kind and lend me your attention for the next few moments as I remark upon the events of the four seasons. 

Rory has returned to Stars Hollow from Europe. She has many “irons in the fire” and is facing more stress than she understands. It would seem her world isn’t quite as well tethered as it seems. Lorelai’s is fracturing too. With the passing of her father her relationship with her mother is far worse than ever before.

One thing is certain, time passes. Over the six hour journey we see the transition of the Gilmore women. The death of Richard looms over each leading lady with a nearly tangible effect. While Emily faces grief head on she begins to discover who she truly is. Who is the woman when left to her own devices? As she stated in the original series she lived with her parents, went to college, got married, and Richard went to work. It’s time to learn something new.

Discovery is a unique journey for all three women, and I believe only two truly found what they were searching for.

This mini-series has marvelous highs and dejecting lows. If you have, at any time, followed the lives of the Gilmores you will laugh (probably at Kirk), you will cry (probably over Lorelai), and you will carry on (probably with Emily). But remember that not every tear is sad.

For Year I must say I truly enjoyed the excursion into the deeper parts of our ladies’ lives. Not only did this give the fans a look at where they are now, but it also hit on some very crucial character points I believe the fans needed. It pressed on nerves that had been lacking any feeling at all. While the initial series was often lighthearted and pop-culture centered this addition gave so much more.

On the whole I would say I genuinely enjoyed A Year In The Life. It was touching and crazy! Heartfelt and wonderfully new. I will say the final four words left me a little agast, and not in a way I expected. I won’t reveal their gravamen, but I did walk away hoping that Netflix decides to revamp the series in its entirety. 

So go. Watch. Pour yourself some coffee and grab a few dozen boxes of pop tarts to watch A Year In The Life. You won’t be sorry. 

The Truth When Packing for Labor…

I recently experienced the wonders of giving birth to a beautiful baby girl. ( No, this isn’t a gross post. Don’t worry.) Prior to D-day I read every post on the subject and what to expect. Today I thought I’d add to the masses my own personal experience. What I packed and what I actually used (as well as a commentary on specific items).

The Hospital Bag

So I packed what I call the basics. Clothes (a gown for laboring in and an outfit for the ride home), a robe, house shoes, cosmetic stuffs/ toiletries ( hair brush, ties, dry shampoo, toothbrush), pads, baby’s going home outfit, chapstick, a blanket, and my necessary meds. Everything had a purpose. Some blogs list more items they deem necessary. During my labor what did I actually use? The blanket, pajamas, toiletries, and our going home outfits. 

That’s it! And here’s why…

See the hospital provides everything you need from diapers and clothes for baby to underwear (big disposable undies useful for packing all kinds of soothing goodies in) and meds for you. Seriously. The only thing I needed was mittens for baby’s hands. 

If you plan to have a baby any time soon check with your hospital to see what they provide then pack accordingly. I liked to be prepared so I packed a few uncertain things. 

If you want comforts from home I totally understand. But in my experience I was mainly dozing or dealing with contractions too much to notice anything else. 

Here let me stop and address one little detail. I’m aware they now make cute labor gowns which are advertised everywhere. They claim hospital gowns are gross, annoying, and unfit for everything dealing with labor. Um…No. See, here’s the thing, the gowns used in labor and delivery are different from regular hospital gowns. They have covered slits in the front which are great for breastfeeding. They have an open back with off set ties so you are covered but still accessible for an epidural. Also consider this…if you use a birthing gown you brought it may sit in your bag essentially marinating in whatever fluids coated it during your labor and delivery (I know I said it wouldn’t be gross, sorry). The nurses, however, will take a soiled hospital gown and immediately launder it providing you with a fresh one. And I can promise you their detergents are a thousand times better than those you use at home. Also, no-one ever seems concerned about any of the linens which receive the same abuse as the gowns do… So, in my opinion, just use what the hospital provides. Less laundry for new mama later.

I liked my blanket just because it was more comfy than the hospital ones. For dad it’s also good to pack a nice blanket and pillow along with some clothes and toiletries.

Those are just a few of my thoughts on the truth for packing for labor. Good luck! 

Suicide Squad

So, I’ve finally gotten around to seeing the movie I’ve been waiting patiently for.

First of all let me say I really enjoyed this movie. It was mostly what I expected and I would watch it again…. despite the flaws. Which…there were quite a few that drove this writer crazy.

Suicide Squad starts off addressing each character and telling their backstory. I felt this was unnecessary. We have five or six villains whom most of us already know about. Deadshot, Harley Quinn, Killer Croc, all of these most of your audience knows about. But they take the time to have Amanda Waller doing narration. Yay….

Moving along… We have the reason for assembling all of these villains. They want to have a group of meta-humans at their disposal in case of emergency, and these hodgepodge baddies are their hope. Okay, cool. And we all know what the bad guys really want- freedom/power. So how do we control them? Exploding neck implants. Mmmkay.

Here’s where it starts to unravel for me. There has, until this point in the movie, been no problem. No major plot has been set into effect. No real reason to gather these guys together. There is no national/global emergency in effect which requires their unique skill set. Then one manages to go rogue… oh and, by the way, she wasn’t shot with one of the implants. Great!

Now we have a problem. Witchy chick wants to rule the world because…. well why not? Still with me?

As all of the following events unfold in a manner one would pretty much expect in a movie like this, we begin to see more of a few of the character’s backstories. Many a flashback from Deadshot and Harley connect us to their motivations. Harley wants Mr. J. Deadshot wants his daughter.

Then things begin to heat up among the government officials pertaining mainly to Amanda Waller. She started this mess and now everyone wants her to fix it. Even the other squad members. The recruits learn the truth of how the problem came to be and decide they may want to stop witchy chick for their best interests.

Here’s where we get all of the mega-cool special effects. From a witch and her brother who look like two of the coolest videogame villains I’ve ever seen, to Diablo looking like some tribal skeleton with a headdress that is on fire. It sets the scene for one really awesome battle.

Now, about the Joker. Because I know you’ve been waiting for my input on the one guy everyone seems to be talking about. I had no problems with Jared Leto’s Joker. In every imagining of every Batman storyline each Joker is different. Whether it be similar to Batman the Brave and the Bold where the Joker is more silly or Batman the Dark Knight where Heath Ledger manufactured a darker Joker for the new series. Yes, this Joker is a bit more… I dunno… stoic? He is crazy and has less humor. But this is his interpretation and I can’t knock him for doing it his own way. Honestly, I think I works for this particular movie.

All in all, I enjoyed this film. I liked Harley Quinn and her silliness. I really got a laugh out of Killer Croc and the other funny banter.

So, in my opinion I’d give this movie a seven out of ten. It’s not exactly perfect and had a few moments that dragged simply due to exposition. Yes, the plot was filled with holes and lacked in a few areas. But if you like these characters and are curious I’d encourage you to see it.

Anyway, have a good one!

Been Reading!

This is kind of a big deal for me. Since I obviously can’t handle commitment. I’ve been reading a book for about a week or so that is very stereotypical but for some reason can’t put down. The writing is really unique, yet easy to follow. I can’t help but enjoy these broken characters. I’ll give more in the review ( date TBA). 

Until then, I have one thing to say. When was the last time you read a book and, while it was good, you still weren’t halfway through and felt the “mileage”? It’s an odd sensation. Feeling like you are almost finished with it because it is so dense, then realizing you are not even at the midpoint.

Anyway, have a good one!